I think my husband is having an affair
Dear Loveawake: We just celebrated our 17th anniversary. We have 2 wonderful kids, daughter, 16 and son, 13. My husband had to have 2 surgeries on his shoulder which has put him out of work for the past 6 months. Here's MY problem. He's been going to physical therapy 2-3 times per week for 2 1/2 - 3 hours at a time since the beginning of June. His therapist is a woman whose husband has cancer. They have this connection that REALLY bothers me. Starting in September (2-3 weeks after his 2nd surgery) he began calling her and vice versa on our cell phone. I only know this because one time when we were talking, he told me that he's not hiding anything and that there's a record of everything he does. So I began checking. He told me he's never met her anywhere outside of therapy and that they are just friends. This is extremely hard for me to understand. He told me that maybe he was just screaming for help and there she was. I have also since found out that he sent her an $80 bear for her birthday and that he wrote her this letter complimenting her on all her accomplishments, etc, and saying that things like he hopes their friendship continues after therapy is done (which should be soon). Then he signs it, with all my love, your friend. I have never doubted his fidelity or had any reason to not trust him, but now I am not sure. I love him so much and I am scared to death I'm going to lose him. He tells me to just give it time and things will be ok. I want to hug and kiss and be affectionate, but then I'm "smothering" him. How can I stop feeling this way? He doesn't know that I know about the bear or the letter. If he knew I was playing private detective, I'm not sure how he would react but it wouldn't be good. I really need some advice before I drive myself crazy. I am seriously thinking about trying to get some medication or something because I can't go on feeling this way. - June
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