First off: What is "embodied consent" anyway? Put simply, it is where consent shifts from an intellectual understanding to one that we "get" at a deeper level – when an idea becomes embodied in our nervous system: a felt sense.
In truth, there are many keys to embodied consent, but the three I've identified here have been foundational in both my life and the work I offer.
And what happens when you use these keys? Well, the pleasure and play that results can be next level. But perhaps the more important thing is what doesn't happen!
To maximise our pleasure and enjoyment with our partners, what we want to avoid (in any form of intimate, sensual and sexual play), is the possibility of activating or triggering each other.
We do this through emotional attunement, presence, and connection. These keys support getting to this place with what is known as nervous system regulation (which simply means feeling safe in our bodies)!
With that understanding, go forth and play!
These keys were developed as part of Bear's Embodied Consent workshop series. Please contact Bear if you'd like to be on the waitlist for the next outing.
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